24 (interviewed)

November 29, 2010

I recently had a bunch of questions put to me by a very intelligent online friend of mine. I’m going to post some of the answers here, because i think they fit the mold and intent of this blog.

As you know, I’ve read [this blog], and I remarked how much you seemed to want to unite parts of your life that were otherwise separated or hidden: family, sex, art, etc. At the same time, you have what I consider to be an extremely open, integrated online life: via [other sites], we know about your real name, job, Flickr, Devianart, etc. You seem either comfortable being so open — or as if you’re daring yourself to be so open. What do you think?

The main thing is that i really want to be open and honest and up front about everything with everyone and i hate how uptight people are about sex and sexuality, etc. I’d like to be able to talk to my family about the art that i do and have done professionally (including erotic art), i’d like to talk to my friends about my life and i feel like more and more of it is becoming “taboo” or whatever and it totally shouldn’t be. We’re all adults, we’re all sexual, there’s no reason that acknowledging that should always be off limits.

So the reason i let it all hang out online and often connect my real name to things (mostly my artwork) is because, maybe in some kind of backwards way i want people to find out, and then if/when they challenge me on it i’ll just tell them “so what?” Or if they press me on it, it can lead to a real conversation about who i am and why i’ve done what i’ve done in whatever case. This has happened in some ways. I’ve had artwork hanging out when my parents came to visit and that’s sparked some conversation, usually with my father. So that’s a start.

That’s kinda passive-aggressive sounding, isn’t it?

The reason i don’t feel bad about doing that is the fact that as my artwork progresses and gains more of an audience (if even marginally) i’m going to be doing more and more of it and it will be more and more difficult to keep under wraps. So why not just be open about it from the beginning, right? Also, on the internet nobody really knows me so i’m free to be as open as i want, because, unlike with my family, nobody on the internet knows anything about me aside from what i put out there. So i can make up a new persona from whole cloth, or i can just be as honest as i’d like to have been all along. I’ve chosen the latter, obviously.

That was a little rambly but i think that answered the question, yes?

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